This is thought provoking and this is also ME. I think this self shrinking started when my guardians worried about what people would think rather than how I feel or how it impact my life. The image is first, thoughts are later and how I feel about it always takes a back seat.
I just wanted to add I don't have it figured out yet but I am reclaiming my life back in bits and pieces, doing it at once feels like a big leap (like falling of the stairs). I hope I live my 20's living for myself and away from seeking other people's validation.
Oh yes, we keep figuring it out as we progress in life. From my experience, you don't even know some innate conditioning exists until you're faced with certain situations. So yeah, the starting point is being aware.
This is thought provoking and this is also ME. I think this self shrinking started when my guardians worried about what people would think rather than how I feel or how it impact my life. The image is first, thoughts are later and how I feel about it always takes a back seat.
More ink to your pen.
I just wanted to add I don't have it figured out yet but I am reclaiming my life back in bits and pieces, doing it at once feels like a big leap (like falling of the stairs). I hope I live my 20's living for myself and away from seeking other people's validation.
Oh yes, we keep figuring it out as we progress in life. From my experience, you don't even know some innate conditioning exists until you're faced with certain situations. So yeah, the starting point is being aware.